HERESY (BID'AT) AND BAD CUSTOMS

1. To organize and hold grand fairs on tombs, to light lamps, to cover them with sheets and visiting them by women.
2. To construct Pakkaa tombs over the graves and to respect them extremely with a view to please the Saint of the grave.
3. To kiss the graves or Ta'zia (model of someone's grave), to rub its dust on face, to walk round them or to bow before them, to offer prayers facing the graves, to make offering of sweets, rice etc.
4. To keep Ta’zia or Alam (an emblem) and to offer per-ridge and sweet etc. on them, to salute them and to think them unique.
5. Not to chew betel leaves during the month of Muharram or refrain from using myrtle, lip paint and the company of husband. Also not to wear red clothes during this month and prevent men from eating out of the dish named after Hadhrat Faatimah, daughter of the Holy Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
6. To observe the 'Teeja' (third day) and 'Chaaleeswaan' (fortieth day) as compulsory after-death ceremonies.
7. To regard as improper the re-marriage ceremonies.
8. To perform different ceremonies, inspite of lack of means, on occasions of marriage, Khat’nah (circumcision), Bismillah (beginning or education) etc. arranging music and dance by borrowing money.
9. To observe the festivals of pagans like Holee and Diwaalee.
10. Instead of greeting with Assalaamu Alaykum to greet in any other way or just bow by keeping the arm on tile fore-bead.
11. For women to appear unveiled without bashfulness before brother-in-law and other cousins or any other stranger.
12. To bring water pitcher singing from the river, to listen music or play musical instruments or to make dancing-girls dance and to give them rewards.
13. To be boastful of one's family and to consider family relation with any saint as sufficient for salvation.
14. To taunt some one and look down upon him on account of his humbler pedigree and to regard any profession as low.
15. To praise anyone with exaggeration.
16. To spend extravagantly in marriages and other useless ceremonies. To make the bride-groom wear such clothes which are forbidden under Islamic law, to adorn him with floral chaplet, wristlets and apply myrtle paste to his hand and feet, to arrange fire-works and make unnecessary decorations.
17. To bring bride-groom among the women and to come unveiled before him, to joke with him.
18. To try to peep and cavesdrop in the privacy of bride and the bride-groom and if heard something to spread it.
19. To make the bride sit and remain in strict seclusion to the extent that even the prayers are missed.
20. To fix exorbitant Mahr (dower) just in boastfulness.
21. To weep aloud at the death of someone and to wail beating face and chest.
22. To break the pitchers in use at the time of death or to get clothes washed which touched the body of the dead.
23. Not to prepare pickles etc. in the house of mourning or any other function for about a year and to revive the mourning all certain fixed and particular days.
24. To indulge in excessive make-up and decoration of the body to appear beautiful and to look down upon simple dress.
25. To hang pictures and photos in the house.
26. To use golden or silver utensils or to wear very thin clothes and jingling ornaments.
27. To go (for women) in gatherings of men such as Ta’zia processions or fairs etc.
28. To adopt and wear the dress of the opposite sex and its manners.
29. To get the body tattooed, to do witch-craft etc.
30. To embrace and hug prohibited persons at the time of departure or coming back from the journey.
31. To get the nose or ear pricked of a male child as an omen for long life and to make him wear nose or ear ring, silk or saffron dyed clothes and neck, feet or wrist ornaments.
32. To give opium to the children to keep them quiet and asleep.
33. To treat an ailment of the child with the milk or meat of a lion.

These are some of the undesirable deeds and things described above. Muslims should avoid them as they have been prohibited by Allah and His Prophet Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam.

GRAVE SINS-WHICH HAVE BEEN SEVERLY WARNED AGAINST